After a recent Holy Week, Paul, one of our pastoral interns, reflected in a small group on an experience he had the previous week. Paul had made a run to the grocery store after our Good Friday worship. While standing in the checkout line he noticed the cover of one of the magazines in the display rack, which featured a very attractive teenage girl. She was well endowed, thin, physically fit, and scantily clad. One the cover were these words: "You can have a body just like this one!"
Paul said that after being immersed in the church's story in the intensive way that Holy Week immerses us and experiencing how it is that Jesus Christ's death was God's affirmation of the infinite worth of all human beings, this encounter with the magazine's cover message angered him. The cover was from a world that exists in opposition to the church. As the cover begged to invite him into the false promise it offered, he said he was carrying in his soul an image proffered in our worship center that night: the accusers pointing their fingers at Jesus.
Paul worked among our high school youth, which included a particular young lady whose genetic make-up meant that she would always be heavy. She regularly had to endure some dehumanizing bullying at school, and Paul experienced the magazine as a cultural statement of the world pointing its finger at this girl. Outside the church, the world saw a fat teenager who probably had little going for her. Inside the church she had infinite worth and was a leader among our youth.
—The Rev. Rick Barger in
A New and Right Spirit
4 Comments:
At 8/07/2008 6:52 AM, Anonymous said…
When, exactly, did the media cease to become a source that provided objective information? Now, its satan's tool, bombarding us everywhere we go with false images of what we should be and telling lies about what we need to be successful, fullfilled and happy.
Its overwhelming, especially to our youth. Sadly, some would rather die than not be perfect in the eyes of their peers.
What a battle we parents and the Church fight everyday to open their hearts to the truth when our children, in their vulnerability, easily believe the lies over true love.
At 8/07/2008 7:59 AM, Anonymous said…
One size definitely doesn't fit all. Why would I want to look like a teenage girl?
At 8/07/2008 10:36 PM, Anonymous said…
I measure and weigh myself every morning and have since I was about 11 years old.
I have always tried to look better and now, as I am getting older, I find myself trying even harder.
My husband said just last week I need to loose weight now so I can look better for him.
It's not just the media, started with my father and went to my husband.
At 8/08/2008 6:40 AM, Anonymous said…
Anonymous,
It could be that your father was trying to keep you at a healthy weight and went about it the wrong way, unknowingly damaging your self esteem at a very early age.
As for your husband, the media, in just about every medium, overwhelms us with images of women and its concept of perfection.
You are correct in maintaining weight to stay healthy and active. And, this doesn't mean "skinny". But, to do so to support your husband's idea of perfection is wrong.
Remind your husband that we are ALL created in God's image and His love is unconditional. You are beautiful no matter what!
I would be willing to bet that your husband is no Brad Pitt! :)
Be blessed and be healthy!
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